I've talked for quite a while about summarizing all the 'boytalk with the girls' in blog posts. Here we go (cue nervous laughter) ...
|Aww. Aren't they adorable? I don't know them.|
Maybe I'm jaded — divorced and full of cynicism and doubt. Losing my romanticism. I just can't keep believing this dude exists.
|Stories require girly drinks.|
One big play that makes everything right. Like we're all little girls wanting to be Cinderella, ready to swoon for the boy with the glass slippers and more importantly, the gumption to bring them to us.
"But here's the thing," said one of these recently single-lized women. "We're pining away after the wrong guy from the very start. What we really need is a guy who can want us confidently, because that guy never needs to come up with a grand gesture."
"Want me confidently," she said. I nodded. She is right.
We can dream naively that meeting the right girl — this would be you, naturally — can make even the most spineless manchild step up to the plate. After all, isn't that what true love is all about, two souls who can't be kept apart, not for self-doubt or misguided egos or any unfortunate personality flaw? Isn't true love supposed to be a great equalizer?
This is where I have doubts. What right do we have to expect anyone to behave in a manner so beyond their personality? Ladies, we've watched too many romantic comedies.
What we should focus on is knowing what we want in a partner and seeing the men in our lives for exactly who they are. Let's not hold expectations of grand gestures from men who can't rally the confidence in the first place, skip the pining, bitch and moan to our girlfriends about the loss and the lack of greatness and start over again, keeping ourselves open to finding the man who can want us confidently.
Forget about grand gesture guy. He'll never rally.
Maybe we should all just get dogs.